Forgiveness
In the big picture, there is nothing to forgive, because nothing has been done that is wrong. In our day to day lives we make choices and sometimes they work out and sometimes seem not to. However, every thought, deed, action is always on purpose or in Divine Order. When we experience tragic events in life it is hard to see the purpose in them. We often want answers of why it occurred and usually someone or something to blame. It is difficult to lose loved ones or have other events that cause us pain.
Which comes to forgiveness. When we hold onto events that cause us anguish they slowly destroy us. Even if something happened that was accidental it is difficult to let go and maybe more so. When someone has wronged us and been at fault, we want to them to feel guilty or bad. The challenge is that holding onto that kind of judgment actually hurts us more then the offender. Most can hold a grudge but it takes real strength of character to forgive. When we forgive, we release ourselves from the painful burden. It doesn’t mean what has occurred is okay. It just means that we have made peace with the pain and it is time to let it go.
Finally, for many of us, forgiving ourselves is perhaps the most difficult of all. There are events in my life that I still have some blame, shame and guilt about what I did. In many cases, I have apologized to whomever I hurt and they forgave me and I still have some energy of sadness. And so it comes down to knowing that we always do the best we can do. We cannot do anything other than that. In retrospect, we can look back and wish we had made a more loving choice. Truth is, I couldn’t do it at the time. Remember the line to one of my favorite songs: “I love the world the way it is cause I can clearly see, that all the things I judge are done by people just like me.” ” So till the birth of peace on Earth, which only love can bring; I’ll help it grow by loving everything”. Including me!
Back to the Big picture. We are eternal, limitless, beings of light who are forever loving. If you are stuck right now in any form of non-forgiveness, time to let it go. You are wonderful, just the way you are. From my forgiving heart to yours, Thomas