Heart to Heart 394

Make Someone Happy

Lou Ann and I watch the Hallmark television station.  We watch all the romantic movies throughout the year.  We especially love the Christmas movies, which we record and watch several times.  The movies are sentimental, loving and follow a familiar theme of couples finding their life partner.  The writing is corny and obvious.  We have seen so many we could write them ourselves. It would be easy to be critical of the sameness of the plot and the writing.  However, for us, the love shines through!

There is another series on the Hallmark channel called “Signed, Sealed and Delivered.”  It has a whimsical story line of four United States Postal service employees.  They work in the Dead Letter Office at the Denver Colorado postal facility.  Their mission is to attempt to deliver packages and letters that have become undeliverable.  They gave themselves the nickname “The Postables.”

The four workers head out of their office to deliver mail that can save lives, solve crimes, reunite old loves and change futures. The group includes leader and charming postal detective Oliver O’Toole, technophile Shane McInerney, free-spirited Rita Haywith, and master researcher Norman Dorman. Together, they work to get the mail to its destination, and although late, in some respects it often gets there at just the right time.

Lou Ann and I laugh at their antics and cry at their foibles and personal victories.  I highly recommend you watching it, if you desire to have your heart warmed.  The series was created by Martha Williamson who also created Touched by An Angel, so you know you will be inspired and shed some tears.

The episode tonight ended with the song “Make Someone Happy”.  Here are the lyrics, it was first sung by Jimmy Durante in 1947.

It’s so important to
Make someone happy,
Make just one someone happy;
Make just one heart the heart you sing to.
One smile that cheers you,
One face that lights when it nears you,
One girl you’re ev’rything to.
Fame if you win it,
Comes and goes in a minute.
Where’s the real stuff in life to cling to?
Love is the answer,
Someone to love is the answer.
Once you’ve found her, build your world around her.
Make someone happy,
Make just one someone happy,
And you will be happy, too.
This is sung from a boy to a girl, but it could be sung to ourselves, our friends, our lovers, whoever makes our heart smile.  My favorite stanza is “Fame if you win it, comes and goes in a minute. Where’s the real stuff in life to cling to?”  The answer for me is always love.  In truth we cannot make someone happy.  However when we come from a deep place in our heart and connect with another soul; there is a good chance that they will smile and their heart will glow!  From my happy heart to yours, Thomas


Heart to Heart 393

We Don’t need to Fix it!

In life, we all have our issues that we have created.  We made choices that we felt served us at the time.  To be in a human body and to feel is Divine!  We get so busy in our daily lives that so much time goes by and we feel like we have missed a lot.  We are in pain and we attempt to cover it up with busyness.  We see opportunities as problems and often try to fix them.  This is where we hide out.  When others see us in a tender place, we say we are fine or okay.  It is at this moment when we have the opportunity to have a deep spiritual experience.  That is, to become closer to another soul.  When we do, angels cheer, heavenly music is played somewhere in the Universe.

On an eternal spiritual level we don’t need fixing.  On a human level we only need to be heard and touched.  As we move through life we get to peel back the layers of forgetfulness.  When we become vulnerable and surrender to our soul, we remember who we are.  Fragile beings of light dancing in the moonlight of forever.  We also don’t need to fix each other.  Let us also surrender to the truth of everyone else’s path in their lifetime.  We can pray, and hug and cry and hold each other till the light returns to it’s brilliance.  We aren’t broken, we are just choosing our own paths to fullness and beauty.  From my unbroken heart to yours, Thomas

Heart to Heart 392

The Mirror

Lou Ann asked me to share a blog from a year ago.  Many of you may have missed it!

The Mirror Principle

Universal principle #9

Everything we see and feel is a reflection of the state of our own consciousness. Every person we attract into our lives is showing us a perception we hold about ourselves. Every feeling expressed by another, mirrors a feeling deep within us. This reflection is a gift, for it allows us to be aware of the beliefs we hold, and the ways we have blocked the free flow of Divine Love through us.

In the series of experiences that make up our life there can be time for reflection about the whole purpose of it.  We are so busy in doing, that we have little time for being, which is after all what we are: human beings not human doings.  Many of us stick to the script; we see life as a one time event of some four score and two and then hope there is an afterlife.  Then what?  Perhaps if we played our hand right, we get a heavenly home, if not, a horrible fate.  Then there is the possibility that we are here many, many times before exiting stage left.  If we are eternal souls who have a consciousness that endures in some form, then why not keep coming back?

The gospel means “good news.” Good is a judgment.  The good news is, we are here and experiencing life.  However, the planet is a mess.  The human inhabitants use up its natural resources and even kill each other a lot.  John Denver was frustrated by what he observed as he traveled all over the globe entertaining others.  There is a lot of angst in his lyrics about a world that he so loves and how we all are abusing it and its travelers.  He cries out in his song “Let us begin”, “What are we still making weapons for?”  He pointed out the plight of children in his soulful “I want to live.”  I encourage you to go to You Tube and listen to those songs.

The Earth is a reflection of who we all are.  Right now we are not doing such a good job of caring for our planet.  It is up to each of us while we are here to do all we can to nurture and love our amazing planetary home.  Recycle, become sustainable, treat everything as sacred, because it is.  So before our own journey to our spiritual home, let’s make this one the best ever! From my reflective heart to yours, Thomas


Heart to Heart 391

Travel and Change

We are sitting at the gate at the Houston Hobby Airport.   Our flight to Phoenix is going to leave thirty five minutes late at 11:15 pm.  We will arrive in Phoenix in about two hours and forty minutes.  Then we have a two hour drive to home.  It will either be a late night or an early morning.  When we arrived tonight we were going through security and they discovered my metal thermos water bottle.  They made me go back out to the entrance and empty it and then go back through the security again.  Such is travel, it changes a lot.

We had a nice visit with Lou Ann’s family and now it is time to be back home again.  The John Denver song is ringing in my memory.  “Hey It’s Good to be back home again.”  We live in a forty four year old house at the top of a hill.  We have been there almost five years.  It feels like we have been there a long time.  It has become home.  ” Sometimes our old house feels like a long lost friend!”  A paraphrase of the aforementioned song.  Here are my two favorite verses:

“Oh, the time that I can lay this tired old body down
And feel your fingers feather soft upon me
The kisses that I live for, the love that lights my way
The happiness that living with you brings me

It’s the sweetest thing I know of, just spending time with you
It’s the little things that make a house a home
Like a fire softly burning and supper on the stove
The light in your eyes that makes me warm”

Living and traveling with Lou Ann is the sweetest thing I know of.  And it is all the little things that she does in our life that makes it so sweet.  So, tonight when we finally lay down in our bed next to each other.  I will experience the “kisses that I live for”, “the light in her eyes that makes me warm and totally feel “the happiness that living with her brings me.”

I wish for the whole world to feel that loved.  Not only by another but by oneself as well.  We all go through a lot of travel and change.  May your travel enchant your heart, and may the changes awaken your spirit, and may you find a love that makes you warm! From my filled up heart to yours, Thomas


Heart to Heart 390

Would you rather be happy or Right?

Sometimes we learn a pattern in our lives that ultimately doesn’t support us.  Early on, we are taught to be right, rather than wrong.  In school, we are graded by how many right answers we get on exams. As students we learn to avoid as best we can, the embarrassment of being wrong. Getting the right answer becomes the primary purpose of our education.  Isn’t it regrettable that this may be inconsistent with actually learning? Can you imagine the generative and exciting learning environment that would result from a class that rewarded asking the best questions?

As a marriage counselor I often ask people if they’d rather be right or they’d rather be happy. Although nearly everyone says they would prefer happiness, the battle continues over right or wrong. If you pause and consider it, it’s really not helpful is it? The very fact that we’d mindlessly choose to win an argument at the cost of damaging our relationships points to something terribly amiss.  This compulsion to be right, sidetracks our lives and impedes our learning and happiness. An article in a health magazine says:

“People who always need to be right tend to have fragile egos,”  When they feel as if their self-image has been threatened, they want to make themselves look bigger or smarter, so they blame others. It’s a coping mechanism to deal with insecurity. Being right affirms and inflates our sense of self worth.

This will help me be more patient with folks who love to be right, including myself. In some way we feel threatened or don’t feel good about ourselves. We can help each other by loving each other unconditionally!

Let us begin to create loving relationships where we listen to each other and not correct each other.  From my happy heart to yours, Thomas

Heart to Heart 389

Life is a Game

These words are on a DKNY SPORT card that was attached to a piece of clothing that Lou Ann bought.  Life is a sport, and we play it. We move fast and we have goals. Not just at the gym or on a court but in the city and on the streets that we love. We train for the sport of living well, with eyes on the goal and not the clock. No one loses, but to win takes more than just showing up. It means we have to be highly flexible, innovate every day, push our limits, and remember how to breathe. Game on! 

Life can be more fun when we make a game of it.  We get to make all the rules, if we choose to. We get to prepare our minds and hearts to create the best life possible.  We don’t have to compete with anyone else.  It is our journey and we get to say what life brings us. Even when life seems to go against us, we get to choose how we feel about any situation.  We get to make another choice that will lead us in a direction of success.

Remember the classic book by Florence Scovel Shinn; The Game of Life and how to play it?  Here is the essence: In this transformational classic, Florence teaches the power of positive thought. She explains how our thoughts and words affect the experience we have in our daily lives, and uses concrete examples to show how we can use them to bring more of what we want into our lives, including abundance, love and success. A wonderful and simple-to-follow book on the power of right thinking.  You can get it on Amazon for five bucks!

Let us remember, that to some degree, we are all abundant, loved and successful.  When we focus on the truth of this, we attract more to us.  Let us support each other in being successful at each other’s game of life.  We are all winners,  just breathe it in! From my successful heart to yours, Thomas

Heart to Heart 388

Confucius  Say!

We were at dinner with Jay and Marilyn Royer this evening,  We ate at the Asian Fusion restaurant.  They have wonderful food and even more wonderful, generous, caring management.  When the meal was finished we received Fortune Cookies with these messages.  Be kind,  for everyone you meet is fighting their battles too! Business is a lot like tennis, if you don’t serve well, you lose! Compassion will cure more than condemnation! Actions speak louder than talks!   

There is almost no substitute for being kind.  When we get irritated and raise our voice or become sarcastic, it hurts ourselves most of all.  And as we have said so many times, it is difficult to know what is occurring inside someone else.  We have not had their life experience.  So when someone acts rude in traffic or is acting in an unloving way; we cannot know what has happened for them to be that way.

I play tennis a lot and my serve is the best part of my game.  It makes the game easier because a strong serve can win a point in one stroke.  Of course, this fortune is perhaps well said inside an eatery.  Even if the food is good and the service is poor, they would not do well.  And the metaphor implies that in life, how we serve, determines a lot of how our world will turn out. There are so many unselfish folks serving all over the globe, and we all benefit by their selflessness. So, by serving well, we all win! Even in tennis!

I can’t imagine when condemnation ever supported humanity.  Even if people break a law and are “condemned” to serve a prison term; we as a society have lost. When any of us do something that deserves that kind of punishment, it is a sad day.  Perhaps we can all be more loving and supportive of each other and these kinds of events won’t occur as frequently. Let us all be more compassionate!

Teddy Roosevelt said “Speak softly and carry a big stick.”  He, of course was referring to international diplomacy.  It meant to negotiate peacefully, with the knowledge that if things went wrong, our country could defend itself.  I propose a new saying.  “Speak softly and have a big heart.”  Our actions do speak louder than our words.  What we do, carries the truth with it.  What we say can always be interpreted or can be misinformation.  We will all be remembered for what we did, not what we said!  From my fortunate heart to yours, Thomas

Heart to Heart 387

Love in!

Today more than a hundred people gathered in a small town in between Houston and Galveston to celebrate one person.  Her name is Sadye Maxwell Dudley and everyone calls her “Sissie”.  She is one of five siblings, born in a little home in Galveston Texas.  She will be eighty years old on Wednesday.  She was second born to Sadye, her mom and Charles Wallace, her father.  She and her husband, Harry had six children, four girls and two boys.  You can see why there were so many people at the party!  Her sister Marilyn, baked one of her gorgeous gigantic cakes.  Her daughters, created memorable displays of her life in photos on a large board.

I was there because I am married to Sissie’s sister Lou Ann, the middle child of the Maxwell family.  So many folks pitched in to make this party a huge success.  Marilyn’s husband, Jay worked tirelessly in the kitchen with his family who volunteer to do special events like this.  They usually do this for Light House Charity and situations of helping folks during floods and storms.  Lou Ann and I helped a lot with setting up tables and with food and anywhere else that was needed.

Most of these folks have known each other for years, if not decades.  I watched them as they laughed and hugged and renewed their relationships.  It was a big love in!  I suppose this kind of celebration goes on all over the world.  As I reflect upon it, I am touched by how much love and caring is shared for a mom of six children.  Sadye (Dudley) her married name, is not famous.  She didn’t invent some gadget.  She didn’t write a best selling novel.  She didn’t get a secondary education and receive advanced degrees.  She is a mom who loves her children and so many grandchildren and great grandchildren.  And she lives in a family that celebrates that!  They are one close, caring, loving family who make a difference by being there for each other.  Whether they live in close proximity or not.  I was honored to be there and see and feel the love!  From my grateful heart to yours, Thomas


Heart to Heart 386

The Sweetness of Life

Lou Ann and I have been traveling down to Galveston Texas for the past thirty five years.  We got married on December 31st 1982.  We went down to Texas in October of 1983 and I officiated at Lou Ann’s youngest sister’s wedding.  That is when I met most of Lou Ann’s family.  On nearly all of our trips there, we stayed with Lou Ann’s younger sister Marilyn and her husband Jay Royer.  We have camped out at their home and have been treated royally over the years.  They have housed us, fed us, entertained us and have given unconditionally.  We have been so blessed to be a part of their life.  In a word, it has been sweet.  There is no way we can ever thank them enough for their love and caring.  They are two dear people!

I wish this kind of life experience for everyone.  It is simple in concept.  Just give from our hearts and everything else will work out.  Let us all focus on the sweetness in life.  We spend way too much time in judgment of each other.  Let us give others the benefit of the doubt when they might not be feeling loved or loving.  We have all been stuck in an emotional or mental space that does not serve us or others.

Let us continue to practice random acts of kindness.  Here are a dozen to start doing:

1. Leave money on vending machine for someone
2. Bake cookies for the elderly
3. Serve at a homeless shelter
4. Do a 5k for a good cause
5. Help at a veterinarian office
6. Pick up litter on the beach
7. Let someone go in front of you in line
8. Give a stranger a compliment
9. Make dinner for a family in need
10. Insert coins into someone’s parking meter
11. Buy flowers to hand out on the street
12. Leave letters of encouragement on people’s cars

I believe with all my heart, that we can actually change our world and make it a more loving place by being kind. It doesn’t require a lot of money or time.  It only requires us to show up and give when we can.  From my very grateful heart to yours, Thomas

Heart to Heart 385


We are in the Galveston/Houston area in Dickinson Texas.  Five us went to a shopping mall today.  While the other four went shopping, I went wandering.  I went into a Red Robin Restaurant and asked them for an order of french fries to go and they gave them to me at no charge. Nice!  Then I was walking along and a couple passed me by and the lady commented on my Sedona T-shirt.  The three of us stopped and chatted.  She used to live in Sedona.  Her husband said he grew up in Galveston Texas on the street next to Lou Ann where she grew up, a half century ago!  Small world. They said they would visit us in Sedona at our Airbnb.

I walked further into the shopping area and saw the Italian restaurant, Maggianos.  It was at a Maggianos restaurant, some eighteen years ago, that I did a personal growth seminar. I took this event to overcome some of my biggest fears.  My task was to go into the posh restaurant in Costa Mesa California.  Then my assignment was to get thrown out of the eatery.  I had a partner and we sat at the bar and I raised my voice to him in an angry way.  Eventually, they threw me out while calling the police on me.  Then my next part of the task, was to go back to the same restaurant later that night and ask them to serve me dinner.  Which they did.

So whenever I see this particular restaurant sign, I feel a sense of satisfaction.  You see, I have let my fear about what others think of me hold me back.  In many instances, I have not served my self by being afraid.  By completing this challenging assignment, I took back some of my power.  I am encouraging all of you tonight to push through any barriers that you might have created, that keep you from doing your best.  We create every life experience for a reason.  It may not be totally important to know the reason.  What is powerful to observe, is that we created it.  We chose it and we get to receive the benefits from doing so.  Even though, it may take time to see the eventual good coming from those choices.

We are unlimited eternal beings of light.  We have all the power we need, to have our life be as we desire.  Let us allow our spirit to guide us, to shine a light for us.  When we surrender to our Higher self, life will flow and all the connections we need will happen.  From my connected heart to yours, Thomas