Heart to Heart 493 Inner Sustainability

Inner Sustainability

We know that our planet is in trouble and we know who did it! Back in the 1960’s comic strip character Pogo famously said about the Vietnam war, “We have met the enemy and he is us!”  Humanity is destroying our precious Earth at an alarming rate.  These are ten ways we humans are destroying our sacred home. 1. Overpopulation, 2. Pollution, 3. Global Warming, 4. Climate Change, 5. Genetic Modification, 6. Ocean Acidification, 7. Water Pollution, 8. Deforestation, 9. Acid Rain, 10. Ozone Depletion.  These are all major systems that are in vital danger of drastically harming all of the planet’s inhabitants.  And to repeat, it is being caused by homo sapiens.

That is the bad news.  The possible good news is, we caused it and only we can fix it.  The challenge is, will we?

We have made the choices that have created our current environment.  We made many of these choices in ignorance.  Now we know what we must do to turn this epidemic around.  When we didn’t know, we had an excuse.  This is no longer the issue.  However, knowing what to do, or even how to do it, may not be enough.

In order to become sustainable around the globe, we must become sustainable within our hearts and minds. You and I may start to see that our lives are interconnected with the lives of all living entities on earth, from microorganisms to all people to the ecosystem of the planet as a whole. We may gain a humble awareness that the small choices we make, day by day — what to consume, how to handle our garbage and waste, how to conduct our work, and how to spend our time —  do indeed have effects on the larger systems around us. We may also start to recognize that our ability to care about others — people on far-flung continents, people in unfortunate circumstances, people caught in disasters, or people anywhere in the chain of life — makes a difference.

One path to creating our inner sustainability is to do the inner work like meditation and prayer.  It would be helpful to learn mindfulness through the practice of Yoga. This will connect us with our inner wisdom and we will make healthy choices for our fragile spacecraft.

A wonderful local organization, Inspiration of Sedona, is making this their predominant purpose right now.  When we create our inner sustainability we will then do the outer sustainability.  Eventually, we want to become THRIVEABLE! From my sustainable heart to yours, Thomas

Heart to Heart 492 Fail Till You are Great at It!

Fail Till You are Great at It!

I was teaching someone how to hit a tennis ball one day.  They were having some difficulty doing it.  I shared with them ” how many times do you think Roger Federer, the greatest tennis player of all time, has hit a tennis ball?”  They replied “thousands!”  I said ” millions!”  Then I shared if you did something over and over a million times do you think you would develop excellence in doing it?”  They said, “of course!”

We often want the easy way to success.  There is a joke in Hollywood about Academy Award winners being an overnight success.  It only took them twenty years!  Being successful at doing most things will require a lot of repetition and a lot of failures.  Even in the area of our personal lives.  If we want to have happy lives, it will require practicing being happy from the inside.  If we want to have good friends it will require us being a good friend as well.

When we smile at others, it often creates smiles back at us.  When we are angry, it is most likely we will receive the same response. I believe if we develop some patience with ourselves and just keep applying our efforts, we will create the desired results.  However, it will most likely require lots of failures. Take a mental inventory of your life right now.  Are there things that you have not given enough of your time and energy to create your desired results? I encourage you to find that treasure within you by digging a little deeper.  From my never quitting heart to yours, Thomas


Heart to Heart 491 Banana Pumpkin Muffins

Banana Pumpkin Bread

I know this may seem like a fall recipe blog.  The bread is what Lou Ann baked tonight (vegan and gluten-free).  By the way, they are fabulous! Lou Ann loves to bake and we both love to cook.  It is a pun to say that our relationship is delicious!  It is in almost every respect.  We have been together thirty-five years.  We have learned so much about being partners.  It is as if I don’t know where myself ends and she begins. We are so blessed!

What has made our life so sweet is the communication of our hearts.  We have learned to ask for what we want.  We have learned to find our own space.  We have learned how to honor another soul. It hasn’t always been peaches and cream!  There I did it again!  We took many personal trainings over the years so that we could be the best friend and lover for the other.  We survived three bankruptcies and losing everything we owned.  Those financial tragedies only made us closer and stronger.

I share all this not to brag.  I want everyone to have the best life possible.  Experience has taught me that there is a lot of work to make that happen.  It is worth everything to make an effort to be in love with ourselves and with another kindred soul.  We don’t have to be married or even in a committed relationship. What works is to care so much for someone else that their happiness is even more vital to us than our own. When we love from that place we create a magical treasure of love!

I wish for all of you to have this kind of partnership or friendship with another.  If you do not, then let go of what you have been doing that doesn’t serve you. Find another person who wants to be in love with life, as you do.  Then give it all your intention and energy.  When you do that and surrender to the possibility of living from a place of joy, you too will be using the sweetest puns possible!  From my sweet heart to yours ( I know, I did it again!} Thomas


Heart to Heart 490 Blogging


We have been doing this together now almost five hundred days in a row.  It has been challenging for me to sit at my computer, often late at night and come up with something to say that will be of value.  I have an aversion to saying the same thing twice.  I don’t mind writing about the same subject.  For me, it feels like I always want it to be fresh.  So, thanks for reading, responding, liking, loving, sharing and commenting.

Today, Facebook gets a lot of criticism.  Perhaps a lot of it deserved.  However, you and I would not get to have these evening chats unless we Skyped or Zoomed or other computer connections.  Lou Ann and I have been discussing making this a podcast.  I am not sure if that will be of more value. I am willing to test it out.  Please give me your feedback as to whether that would add value or not.  Thanks.

We live in a critical time for our planet. The energies present are perhaps as negative as I can remember.  Here in the United States, we are so divided.  Both sides think they are right.  There appears to be little room for compromise. It might be time to speak from our hearts and not our emotions. The heart is a place where we can all be one.  It is the center of our spiritual being.  It is easy to know when we come from our heart.  It is a place of forgiveness, caring compassion and love.  When we are in the space of those feelings, we can overcome any hurt, anger, transgression or event.

Let us take the time to go to a quiet place and inquire of our heart.  Let us ask it, what would you like me to do?  I believe it has all the wisdom of the Universe and it will lead the way if we take the time to listen.

Once again, thanks for being here for Lou Ann and me. We wish you the best life experience in all that you do. From my thankful blogging heart to yours, Thomas

Heart to Heart 489 Dreamers


Dreamers are the ones who make the world the magnificent place that it is.  It is when we give up dreaming, that our hope fades and and our hearts are saddened.  Here is something I read on Facebook:

“There’s nothing so practical as a dream, well-formed. Every invention, discovery, creative masterpiece, and impossible accomplishment started as an idea then blossomed from there. But dreams are also small business start-ups, college degrees, and marrying the right person. They are common miracles.

Many years ago, a teenage friend and I passed a freshly boarded up gas station that had gone out of business. It was just a defunct gas station to me. Her misty eyes perceived otherwise.

“How sad. That was somebody’s life dream.” Her parents had just lost their own family business. They were moving out of town so they could find other work and begin again.

Dreams aren’t just about sleep. They very much inhabit our waking worlds. Whatever your dreams are, I hope you are diligently working towards them to make them reality.”

Years ago, Lou Ann and I were involved in Income Builders International (IBI).  It was a company that put on seminars about teaching people how to take their dreams to market.  On one weekend, I went to Huntsville Alabama with the director of IBI. He took us to a hill to look at a Saturn V rocket in all of its stages as it laid along the ground.  It is over 360 feet long!  He brought us there to see what the scientists had built and had taken us to the moon.  He went on to say that one of the greatest values of the space program, is the inspiration it creates.  It allows humanity to keep on dreaming about our origins and to keep moving into the future.

We were watching the movie Tomorrowland again. A wonderful adventure fantasy about our Earth and the possibilities for it. As the movie moves toward it’s conclusion, we discover that the way to rebuild our Earth in a healthy and natural way, is to wake up the dreamers.  Once we begin to connect into a powerful reason for living, we get to live amazing and exciting lives.  I encourage everyone to keep on dreaming, we are our only hope, Obi Wan!  From my hopeful heart to yours, Thomas


















Heart to Heart 488 They also serve……

They also serve….

They also serve who only stand and wait, was originally the last line in a poem by Milton.  It was also a slogan used when I was growing up, during world war II. It signified that those not in the actual battles of the war, were also supporting the efforts of the military, by doing other things to help the cause, like recycling. I had a dream last night, in which I was giving advice to a young armed forces officer.  He was perturbed about not being chosen for a higher rank.  I shared with him that being an officer in the armed forces was not about personal gain, it was about service.

I wanted him to know that as an officer he would someday lead a platoon or a squad or a division.  There may be thousands of fellow service personnel following him.  His job was to serve them.  Yes, he would be their leader.  Their very lives would be in his hands.  His leadership would be healthiest, if it came from a place of caring.  When he cared for his troops, he would make better decisions on their behalf.  If he used his heart as well as his head then he would eventually rise to the top.

I awoke and thought about service, for all the rest of us.  When real gentle-men serve their partners, they create all the love they would ever desire to receive.  When gentle ladies serve their partners, it is in line with the nature of who they are.  Right now, in our life together, Lou Ann is working a couple of days per week as a pharmacist, about an hour north of here.  When she comes home, I always have a hot home cooked meal for her.  We serve each other.  As I think of it, this has been a major strength of our relationship.  Service.  We have shared time in our careers, homemaking, cooking, yard work, laundry and almost any task that we were physically able to do.  We are one in service.  It is a delightful way to partner.

Let us think about the ways we all can serve others, not what is in it for ourselves. It may be a wonderful way to create a whole new Earth that we all want.  From my serving heart to yours, Thomas


Heart to Heart 487 Thankful and Forgiving

Thankful and Forgiving

I am thankful for every breath,

every swallow

every grin

every smile

every tear

every frown

every pound

every friend

every daughter

every son

every ex-wife

every thought

every doubt

every aha

every word

every kiss

every hug

every romance

every movie

every meal

every walk

every house

every bed

every birthday

every touch

every challenge

every victory

every sunrise

every sunset

every rain

every cloud

every sky

every star

every planet

every universe

every song

every desert

every food


I ask forgiveness for

every harsh word

every missed appointment

every broken word

every lie

every selfish act

every neglect

everything I don’t recall right now.

When I wrote these lists, it occurred to me that the forgiveness list could also be on the thankful list.  In truth I am thankful for every moment, every thought, every action I have experienced.  They are all my life experience.  I would encourage you folks to write down a list for yourself and see how rich life is.  It doesn’t have much to do with things and accomplishments.  It has everything to do with being human and blessed.  From my thankful and forgiving heart to yours, Thomas





Heart to Heart 486 What Will They Say When You Die?

What Will They Say When You Die

Lou Ann and I have taken many personal trainings in our time together. They were focused on creating the best life possible, from a variety of perspectives.  One of the events we attended, had a session in it, where we were to imagine our last day on Earth.  We were lying in a bed.  Who was there for you?  Was there anyone?  What were those who gathered at the foot of your bed, thinking or feeling?  Were they sad?  Were they just being polite?  It was a profound experience for me.  As I went through the session I cried and cried, almost inconsolably.  The sadness was more about what I felt I had not been, for those gathered at my final day.

I read a tribute to a person on Facebook today given by Cathy Gazda to her beloved friend, Kevin.  I just want all of us to have someone write words like this about us on our final day.  Here is what she said today.

I wish each of you could have known Kevin, even if you only met him briefly, you’d remember him forever.  Like many others, I will miss his brilliant mind, astute observations and profound insights. Which is what brought us together 50 years ago – but, even more so, about life…and what it is to love and be loved. Kevin was kind, funny, witty, generous, considerate, charming, possibly the most eloquent person I’ve ever known.

Along with these many qualities, Kevin had an extraordinary gift for living in the present moment. He was an active listener…reflecting on what had been said, and what hadn’t been said…and offering a thoughtful response.  Even with enormous trials over the last 3 years since his diagnosis with a rare form of cancer, he maintained a keen sense of humor and unwavering focus on living each day to its fullest.

You always led by example, Kevin…forever a trailblazer. And, though we will no longer see you in your physical form…like stars in the sky, the radiant light you brought to the world will continue to shine, more boundlessly than ever. Thank you, for being my friend.

I wish this for all of us. Even more wonderful, to hear these words of praise while we are alive and can look in each other’s eyes and feel each others souls. Cathy was able to share the words she posted today with Kevin, before he died. May we all live our lives so that these words might be said to us.  Not to live this way to earn praise, but to live this way because it is who we are and how we showed up!  From my thankful heart to yours, Thomas

Heart to Heart 485 Men Get in the Way

Men Get in the Way

My title tonight is about an experience I had this week while playing tennis.  We were playing mixed doubles, which means a woman and a man on each team.  While the game was going on there were a few times when the ball was hit over the net and going towards one of the women and the man tried to make a difficult play and made an error.  I jokingly yelled across the net “why do men get in the way?”  We all laughed!

In truth, women players too, try to make plays that don’t support their team as well.  It just struck me at this time in our world, that much of the chaos and things that are not supportive of the planet, are done mostly by men.  Women by nature are the supporters and nurturers.  Of course, not all men are this way.  However, we are at a crisis point, where we all must work together,for the benefit of humanity.  Men must begin to access that part of themselves, that is loving and caring, if we are to make it.

On another note, Lou Ann and I just watched a documentary titled “Running For Good.”  It is about a woman named Fiona Oakes. She has made a name for herself as a unique endurance runner. She is the fastest woman in the world to run a marathon on all seven continents, and the north pole, in both cumulative and elapsed time. Fiona’s achievements are made even more astounding due to the fact that she was told at age 14, that she would never walk properly, let alone ever run. She would undergo more than 17 radical knee surgeries, which ultimately led to having her entire right kneecap removed. The process was agonizing, the rehab worse, the records she’s gone on to set, even more astounding.

With overcoming her own adversity, Fiona’s true drive to achieve incredible feats of speed and human endurance are motivated by a deep desire to raise awareness for the plight of animals. She runs to help fund a 450+ animal sanctuary that she takes care of every day.  She is such a kind and caring person.  She is so humble about her achievements. To top it all off, she is Vegan. From my feminine heart to yours, Thomas


Heart to Heart 484 12 Notes in an Octave

12 Notes in an Octave

Lou Ann and I went to see A Star is Born tonight. The movie is raw, visceral, emotional, exciting and brilliantly directed and acted.  I would guess that Bradley Cooper, who directed, produced and starred, and Lady Gaga who starred and was phenomenal and Sam Elliot who was wonderful will get Academy Award nominations. If you like highly entertaining, well made movies, don’t miss it!

A was going to title this blog tonight A Star is Born before I went to the movie.  There is a scene in it where Elliot’s character shares with Lady Gaga about something that Cooper’s character said.  He said there are 12 notes in an octave and that musicians get to play with that.  That is all they get.  And that she did those notes in a special way.

I thought about all of us.  We are all given life, and breath and brains and minds and hearts.  We all get to play our songs, our music, sing our words.  Cooper’s character tells Gaga’s character earlier in the movie, (my recollection) to sing her words, not to sell herself short, to sing what she believed.  I am encouraging all of us tonight, to sing our songs.  We may not be musicians, we may not even be good at singing.  We all have something inside of us that longs to be shared.  We have gifts that no one else has.  We have a way of expressing that is totally unique to us!

Please find your voice.  Whether it is a whisper to your lover’s ear, or encouragement to your children, or shouting to the full moon.  Say it loud and say it with the knowledge, that it comes from a deep place inside of you, that is sacred to the Universe.  And say it till the day you die!  You came here with a purpose to let your light so shine, that all of the rest of us are illuminated forever!  From my 12 octave heart to yours, Thomas