Archives for August 2017

Heart to Heart 78

Remodel Yourself

We have been remodeling our home for six months.  And as you probably know, it has cost more and taken longer than I ever dreamed it would!  We are now laying a thousand square feet of ceramic tile and working ten to twelve hours per day.  We have a timeline of being complete for our vacation rental guests this Saturday.  We look forward to having guests from around the world visit with us.  If you know of someone who might want to experience the magic of Sedona; send them to “Million Dollar View” on Airbnb or VRBO or Homeaway.  Thanks!

As I sit at my computer, pretty well exhausted, I am thinking of the word remodel and how it might apply to us personally. It might be time to check out how we are doing in our life and how we might improve a little.  Are you working with goals that might be stalled a bit?  Many of us have issues we have been working on most of our life. It might be time for a life remodel.

Arnold Patent advised using this method.   Focus on what you have created in your life right now which does not feel supportive of your personal vision.  Just bring to mind the event and notice how you feel.  Stay with the feeling for a moment.  If it doesn’t feel like what you desire, pause and now focus on how you want to feel.  Now stay with this feeling longer.  At this point you do not have to take action.  Just be with the feeling and declare” this is how I choose to feel all the time”.  When you stay with a loving feeling like this for awhile; Universe often responds with events and people in your life who will support your wonderful feeling.  I hope your remodel doesn’t take as long as ours has! From my heart to yours, Thomas


Heart to Heart 77

Simple Acts of Kindness

The tragic events in south Texas give rise to heroic acts of love and caring that might never have occurred without it happening.  I admire all the pictures of these folks, many who have never met before, giving aid and comfort to each other.  It is sad, in a way that it takes this kind  of a tragedy to bring us close together.  Maybe it might wake some of us up to the possibility of being this kind on a daily basis.

I know some folks who do simple acts of kindness that no one knows about.  They always put back their shopping cart and more than that they get other scattered carts and return them to the cart storage area.  When they drive their car they are thinking about other drivers and slow down or speed up so others can find their place in traffic. They hold open doors for others, even when the person is quite far from the door.  They find out the names of those that serve them and remember their names.  When they go to a potluck they take a portion that is adequate for others to have enough food as well.

I had a friend who once was late in remembering my birthday.  She felt bad about it.  For the next fifty two weeks in a row she sent me a “sorry I was late” birthday card.  Every card was different and heartfelt! I know of a couple who had a friend in trouble and needed moral support.  The couple paused every night at 8 pm to send love to their friend for 350 days in a row.  These are all simple things that help the world be a better place.  Let us all find ways to love and support each other every day.  We don’t need a tragedy to show others how much we care!  From my heart to yours, Thomas

Heart to Heart 76


This is blog number 76 and I am 76 and I played professor Harold Hill in the musical “The Music Man” a few years ago.  And of course a famous song of that musical is “76 Trombones”  Which reminds me of the Carlson family who lived here in Sedona at the time.  They knew more about the musical than I did!  Often during conversations, someone would use a phrase or a word that would elicit a response for someone to either break into song or quote a line of dialogue from the musical. Especially the word trouble!  Well……….

Remember my story about the blue dragon flies? It was in blog #45 and you can find it on our website at  One time I was sharing the story of the blue dragon flies with a fellow tennis player here in Sedona.  We were chatting near the net as we had completed our play.  I had gathered the tennis balls and put them in a portable metal tennis hopper.  As I was relating this adventure, a blue dragon fly landed on the handle of the hopper and stayed there.  My friend was of course amazed at this synchronous event.  Wow, how did that happen? I don’t ask any more, I just smile.

Every event is on purpose.  And it is fun to notice how Universe choreographs it all.  Lou Ann and I have had numerous occasions when the number 333 has occurred for us.  It has become a guide for us.  When we see it, we feel a deeper connection to oneness and we feel we are being guided.  What has been your synchronous events that occur in your life?  Let us know by replying to this post on Facebook.  From my heart to yours, Thomas

Heart to Heart 38

Harmony in Relationships

Universal principle #17

Our primary relationship is with God. How we see and feel about God determines the quality of all our relationships. Knowing that God loves and supports us unconditionally, allows each of us to feel unconditional love and support for our Selves. We are then able to feel and express unconditional love and support for everyone. Aligning with this sequence allows you to see your Self and others as who you really are: the Power and Presence of God eager to surrender to all possibility. When you hold this Truth in your consciousness that is what is reflected to you.

Since we are God then all relationships are with the Oneness.  We can have amazing relationships with others when we do some simple things.  On our thirtieth anniversary, thirty five coming up New Years Eve, I realized we had been married for more than ten thousand days.  I then began to think of all the things we had done over those three decades.  Lou Ann and I are very affectionate with each other.  We probably kiss ten times per day and we touch each other ten times per day and we tell each other we love each other ten times per day.  I realized that we had done those intimate things a hundred thousand times in our first thirty years.  They are simple gestures of love and when someone gives you that much feedback about how much you are loved, the relationship has a good chance to work. I sound like a love accountant!

Another thing that Lou Ann taught me is being thankful.  In the very beginning of our marriage she thanked me for the smallest things like handing her something or following up on something or putting the cap on the toothpaste or cleaning up something.  When I got that kind of feedback it was only natural for me to want to do more for her and of course thanking her also for all she gave to me. We also focus on gratitude which of course falls under thankfulness. We often go over a list of things for which we are grateful.  I even learned to be grateful for every event in my life, not just the loving ones.  Each event reminds me that I am still here doing the best I can at every moment and being thankful for it all!  Take time today to thank someone for just being who they are.  They don’t have to do anything to earn it.  Then recall all of the things in life that you have created and be grateful for the experience. From my heart to yours, Thomas

Heart to Heart 72



Universal principles is what it’s all about

Life is so uncertain sometimes we like to shout

When we’re in our head and not our hearts we’ll never figure it out


So take time for reflection and ease back in your chair

Know life is just perfection and you haven’t got a care


You know what you focus on expands each and every day

Your life is in your own hands, be careful what you say


Universal principles is what it’s all about

Are you sure we can’t figure this out?


So get yourself a soul mate or maybe two or three

And sing this song along with me, I like company


Universal principles they’re tried and they are true

Investigate them now my friend, they will work for you


Oh Universal principles is the way to live your life

Joy and peace and harmony, not worries, lack and strife

I’m so blessed, I’m grinning my best friend is my wife


Oh Universal principles is what you came here for

Live them each and every day, no one’s keeping score


There’s one more verse I like to sing

One thing I’ve left to say

If you want to have a life of joy, then get out of your own way



Here is a little jingle I sat down and wrote the other day.  Just a reminder about those nineteen principles of living life in a magnificent way.  There were put together by Arnold Patent many years ago and they are timeless and powerful.  They are listed on our website at, from my heart to yours, Thomas


Heart to Heart 75

We are all angels in disguise

We just watched the movie “Michael” again.  John Travolta plays a large, overweight, hard smoking, sugar addicted.angel to perfection!  I love the humanity that Nora Ephron shows in this depiction of an angelic messenger. In the film, Michael has almost all the women attracted to him.  Each lady has a favorite sweet smell they say he emanates. Michael shares his deep feelings about his humanity with a Jack Russel terrier named Sparky.   He laments that he has to leave all of the wonders of this Earth.  Finally it is Michael’s task to get one of the men to open his heart.

This seems to be a planetary condition for us as well; how to get men to open their hearts and face their fears and become powerful in a loving and caring way.  Here is what Emmanuel shares in his book “What is an Angel doing here”  “You, the Angel belongs with the ‘you’ the human being, in every moment of your life.  When you feel hopeless, depleted, lonely, or frightened, that is because spirit, your essence of perfect Love, has not been allowed to walk with you, the human being.  Everything is designed for you to understand that there is a greater Self that cannot be aligned with the limiting definition of self that you have accepted.  All that transpires is designed by You, Angel, to walk the adventure of humanness ultimately remembering who You are!”

We are all angels in disguise.  We limit our choices and often give into fear.  It is now time to realize the truth of who we are.  Don’t let the situation that we have created here on our planet blind you to your magnificence.  We are unlimited light beings, who when we spread our wings, can achieve miraculous results.  While we pray for the safety of our sisters and brothers in Texas; let us also consider taking action of how to create a safer world.  Our climate is being assaulted by our reckless choices.  Please do whatever you can do to reduce your personal carbon footprint.


Every day we make choices in our lives that affect the environment, the climate and other species. Leave more room for wild animals and plants.

1. Think twice before shopping.

2. Make sure your big purchases have big environmental benefits.

3. Ditch the plastic.

4. Boycott products that endanger wildlife.

5. Pay attention to labels.

6. Be water wise.

7. Drive less, drive green.

8. Green your home.

9. Choose renewable energy.

10. Take extinction off your plate: Eat less meat.

11. Choose to have a smaller family.

12. Use your voice and your vote.

We are all angels and we can do anything.  Let’s do it now!  From my heart to yours, Thomas

Heart to Heart 74


The blog is easier when I am out in the world connecting with folks.  Today we went to the tenth annual Roy Smith memorial party at the home of his previous wife Sarah and her adoring husband Nano.  They live in the small little hamlet of Cornville Arizona.  They have a delightful home under the trees on a few acres that is right on Beaver Creek. This celebration of Roy’s life has brought us together each year and it is always a bonding, loving experience.

There were fifteen of us who brought delicious healthy food and of course chocolate cake in honor of Roy who loved it so much.  I met Roy in the early nineties when Lou Ann and I were conducting spiritual classes in our home here in Sedona.  When Roy entered our home for the first time and I met him, it was if I had known him forever.  I instantly loved him like a brother.  We had so much in common.  We both loved spiritual living in an open and metaphysical way.  We both loved chocolate cake.  We loved sports and we both loved to sing.   I have had few men friends in my life in which I felt so bonded in so many ways.  Roy left our planet on August 17, 2007 which is Lou Ann’s birthday!  I still miss him and trust his new adventure is as filled with love and passion as his last.

I recall at this moment the line in the John Denver song “I want to live”, that goes: “I am looking for my family and all of you are mine.”  Friends are often as close to us as our blood relatives and sometimes closer.  Lou Ann and I have been blessed to have wonderful friends we love dearly in different parts of the world.  It is times like this that I feel so blessed for these wonderful souls who have shared their hearts and lives with us.

Find a friend who you love like your own family and let them know how much they mean to you and how your life is so much better because they are in it!  And also let your family know how much they mean to you and do it as often as you can! From my heart to yours, Thomas

Heart to Heart 73


What will be your legacy?


“Welcome to my morning, welcome to my day

Oh yes I’m the one responsible, I made it just this way

To make myself some pictures and see what they might bring

I think I made it perfectly, I wouldn’t change a thing”

Those wonderful words from John Denver’s “Farewell Andromeda”  resonate as brilliantly as they did all those years ago. John was fortunate that he found his way of doing his life purpose.  For many though we never have that breakthrough.

We are all unique and we all have gifts to share.  Our soul wants us to fulfill the plan of this incarnation.  Part of this plan is sharing our gifts.  I believe that right now there are hundreds of people with the same talent as Beethoven, Ella Fitzgerald, Mozart, Meryl Streep, Gandhi,  Mother Theresa, Martin Luther King or Oprah Winfrey on the Earth.  They have never composed, painted, protested or marched for peace.

All of civilization suffers when we don’t find, nurture and express our true gifts.  We don’t know because we have never taken the time to explore the possibilities of our hidden talents.  We feel like we must get an education and then get a job that has benefits and then have a family and on and on.  Yes, education is important and making enough money to do what we desire is fun.  Having a family is equally the most rewarding and most challenging of life experiences.

So where does our personal search for our own life passion begin?  It begins right where you are sitting, right now.  There are several books available that can help you get started on finding your talent and expressing it.  Barbara Sher has two, the first is “Wishcraft” that she wrote with Ann Gottlieb, the other is “Live the Life you Love”.  John Gray of Mars/Venus fame wrote “How to get what you want and want what you get.”  My latest favorite is “Finding your own North Star” by Martha Beck .  All of these give ideas and exercises to go deep inside and discover hidden abilities and passions inside you.

Cant’ wait to see you accepting the Nobel peace prize!  From my heart to yours, Thomas

heart to Heart 71

How long will you live?

Happiness and attitude are very important. Optimism is a trait that is linked with longer life spans. Even studies support this. A 2011 study found that the group of older people that scored as the happiest had a death rate of 3.6%, which is less than half of the death rate of the least happy people, who scored 7.3%. Optimistic, outgoing, and easygoing people live longer. So roll with it.

Researchers identified common personality characteristics of 243 centenarians. A love of laughter was on the list, and laughter was listed as an important part of life to them. Even people who smile more may live several years longer than people who do not smile as much.

Regular exercise, be it walking, swimming, water aerobics, or riding a bike is going to extend your life. Exercises like yoga also help keep you flexible, improve your balance, and help relieve stress and anxiety. Getting 150 minutes of moderate exercise each week can add four years to your life. Can you walk to the store or move about without your car? Do you work in your yard? The key is to stay active. Several of my family members have a Fitbit activity device that tracks how many steps are taken in a day.  I find that keeping track of my progress encourages me to go farther and achieve a personal goal of ten thousand steps per day.

Finally, how much life will we experience in the time that we have? It is wonderful to live a long time but even more wonderful to love a long time!  From my heart to yours, Thomas

Heart to Heart 70


It has been ten weeks now since we began this blog. I named it Heart to Heart from a John Denver song of the same name. We spend so much time in our minds trying to figure out life.  The mind is a wonderful thing, waste it!  A joke about how much power we give over to the conscious mind.  That part of us has very little knowledge about why we do what we do or why we are here or who we are.  The unconscious is the connection to that part of us that knows about the heart and why it is so important to us.

We have been advised to follow our heart and to do what we love and the money will follow.  That can be a trap for some of us because we expect abundance on the material level will show up when we do what we love.  Perhaps the greater blessing is simply in doing what you love because it feels good to do it.  When we love what we do our eyes light up, we leap out of bed eager to experience the day.  When we are living our passion, other things in our life also seem to have more energy, more fun, and time seems to stand still for awhile.

I know I beat this drum often on this blog and I suppose I will continue to do so.  Do everything you can with love in your heart and you will be the wealthiest among us in many ways!  From my heart to yours, Thomas