Archives for November 2018

Heart to Heart 532 Hope


We are a world adrift in chaos.  Wars, starvation, racism, lying, cheating, verbal and physical abuse are rampant. A report came out about the life expectancy in the United States. For the first time since the early 1960s, life expectancy in the United States has declined for the second year in a row, according to a CDC report. American men can now expect to live 76.1 years, a decrease of two-tenths of a year from 2015. American women’s life expectancy remained at 81.1 years. The change was driven largely by a rising death rate among younger Americans. The death rate of people between the ages of 25 and 34 increased by 10 percent between 2015 and 2016, while the death rate continued to decrease for people over the age of 65.

The tragic part of that report is the dramatic increase in deaths of folks between 25 and 34.  The major change is caused by drug overdose and suicide.  Our younger adults are giving up. They are living in a world largely created by their parents and it has become unlivable for them.  So they resort to taking drugs to deaden their despair or even worse; they end their lives because of the intense pain of living on Earth today. They are without hope.

What can we do?  Here is a list of things I found on LifeHack that might help each of us.

  • conduct a hope audit of your life. How are you doing? in health, work, relationships?
  • take good care of your health.
  • have a stress reduction strategy. Meditation, breathing exercises, physical exercise and favorite forms of recreation all reduce stress. Being in nature does as well.
  • create hopeful relationships. Learn to forgive. Develop a daily journal writing habit if it helps you to let go of negative experiences and emotions.
  • help others see the best in themselves, notice their desire to make meaningful contributions and help them find their path to becoming hope makers for themselves and others.

Look for ways to make hopefulness tangible. Don’t let it be just something for the future. Hope is all of the little things we do each day to make our lives better. Everything you do contributes to hopeful living or takes away from it. That may seem heavy.  But hope is that important. It needs to be treasured. From my hopeful heart, Thomas



Heart to Heart 531 Today

What day is it, asked Pooh?

It’s today squeaked Piglet.

My favorite day said, Pooh!



Today is the only one you have my friend.

Today, we can fall in love.

Today is the only time there is.

Today take my hand and we will fly.

Only in the present will we know ourself.

Only in the moment will there be only love.

Only in our heart will we know we are One!

Only in the now we know the truth!

Tomorrow never can find us.

Tomorrow never can care.

Tomorrow will never arrive for us.

Tomorrow we will never know today.

Today is for us.

Take time and make it what it is.

The magic of the Universe is only in today!

From my in the moment heart to yours, Thomas



Heart to Heart 530 Family


Recently, I answered a post on Facebook.  It was from someone named Ashley.  We had never met before or connected online. She shared that she and her husband are organic farmers and they just got into town.  She also shared that they had experience in permaculture. I quickly responded to her post and we met a few weeks ago.  Since then, they have uncovered old garden plots covered with tall weeds on our lot.  They cleared them and have now created compost piles and planted winter seeds.  We got a couple of apple trees and other plants as well and put them in the soil. Now we are putting together a greenhouse that we found for free on Facebook.

Today, Ashley, Austin (her husband), Sparky, their dog and I cleared land on our acre to create a circular driveway that Lou Ann has desired for a long time.  I was quoted $2500 to do the same work by a landscaper! It will be a big help for parking for our vacation guests. In the mornings they have been making us organic juice. Tonight I made a vegan pasta dish and Ashley made a fabulous vegan salad for us all.

It makes me think of family and what that means.  My four children are back in northern Virginia raising their families and creating their careers.  They have eleven children and six grandchildren.  Lou Ann’s daughter Uma lives in Hawaii with her husband Dave and her children live in Los Angeles and Olympia Washington. We miss being with them a lot. So the Universe gave us a gift of an extended family when these two wonderful angels appeared out of the blue and have become family too!

Ashley and Austin are staying with us at our home and we are honored and blessed to have them with us!  I hope all of you find connections in your life that create abundance, love, and joy. From my overflowing heart to yours, Thomas

Heart to Heart 529 Perfect


We are watching another Christmas movie on Lifetime and the storyline is that the heroine wants to have one totally perfect Christmas.  She gets her wish and she is transported to Ireland.  Everything is perfect.  Perfect parents, breakfast, hot chocolate, turkey and everything else.  She loves it so much.  Then as each day is almost exactly the same (Ala Groundhog’s Day), it begins to wear on her.  She misses the things about her family that used to drive her crazy.  Eventually, she returns home to her, perfectly imperfect life.

Most of us would probably want to make some adjustments to our life.  We may not make enough money, It feels like we don’t have enough time.  We wish we had made other choices.  We might not have the perfect figure, perfect job, perfect mate, perfect family.  And yet, they are our creations.  We are the director, producer, writer of our life’s script. We make the choices on how the plot will unfold.

For me, life works when I do the best I can and then let go.  When I surrender to the “perfection” of the Universe it unfolds as it’s designed to do.  I would encourage you to look at the life you have created and bless it and say thank you.  Then perhaps, connect with all the people in your life and thank them for being exactly as they are. They are a gift to us, even in all their imperfection, as we are to them.

May we all be so fortunate enough to live a life full of many imperfect moments filled with imperfect people that we can love unconditionally just the way we are.  From my perfectly imperfect heart to yours, Thomas





Heart to Heart 528 Holiday Traditions

Holiday Traditions

We watched a wonderful holiday movie on the Lifetime channel, which made us laugh a lot.  There were two families, one Christian and one Jewish, whose son and daughter were engaged to be married.  The film pointed out the holiday traditions of the two faiths.  It also showed how we can get so embedded in our own traditions that we miss out of the value of how other beliefs celebrate their Divinity.  The movie is titled “Will You Merry Me?” and is worth the look, to see how it all works out!

While watching, I remembered my early exposure to the holidays at our home.  My dad was Catholic and my mom was anti-Catholic.  She had a faith of her own, grown out of her German-English Christmas celebrations. I remember loving the romantic story of the Christ child.  I loved the magical birth of the one being who was supposed to be Lord of all.

However, I grew up in Hollywood and I got a taste of secular celebration that still stays with me today.  The Judy Garland song from the “Meet Me in Saint Louis” movie “Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas”, was my favorite then and remains so to this day.  The line in the song “through the years we all will be together if the fates allow” always touched my young heart at a deep level. I think I knew then, that the fates somehow had the upper hand.

In Hollywood, many of my friends were Jewish as well as many Eastern religions.  I got a broad perspective on life at a tender age.  As I grew older the holidays for me have always been about remembering that there is love in the air and it is ours to grab it, if we choose.

Even today, Lou Ann and I watch all these mostly corny and often tender films. My heart overflows as do my tears when I see people open their hearts to each other.  Whatever your faith may be, please find the joy inside all of the activities and remember we are love!  From my nostalgic heart to yours, Thomas

Heart to Heart 527 Fifty Burgers Please!

Fifty Burgers Please!

Doesn’t sound like a to go order for a vegan!  My title tonight is a line from another Christmas movie to warm our hearts!  We watched the movie titled “Christmas Angel” a few times.  It is available in DVD from Netflix or on Youtube for free!  I will try not to totally spoil watching the movie by my remarks.  The story shows a young woman who is having a tough time making it financially and emotionally.  She tries to get employment and she lives in an apartment where the water runs out.  She was a foster child in her younger years and passed from home to home.  She has a defeated spirit about life.  Her neighbor across the hall, in the apartment building where she lives, is a white-headed elderly man who uses a cane to walk.

Eventually, her neighbor lets her in on his secret—he is rich!  He is also not very well physically.  He decides to hire her to help him with his business.  He anonymously donates money, food, clothing and gifts to others.  He takes her out on the streets of Chicago and shows her many needy people whom he desires to help.  At one point, she goes into a restaurant with a friend and goes up to the counter and says “fifty burgers please”!  They then take the food outside and give it away to the folks on the street.  The film was produced in 2009 and has always been one of our favorite holiday flicks.  The theme of it is what we try to do and would love to do more.

I invite all of you wonderful folks to join in the fun.  Find some people this holiday season or any time of year and go out of your way to give them some food or anything that will make life better for them. Life is so much fun when we can be Secret Santas or Christmas Angels!  From my Secret Santa heart to yours, Thomas

Heart to Heart 526 Noel


Lou Ann and I and our house-mates Austin and Ashley watched a movie tonight titled Noel.  It was a story of many different lonely people. The film weaves their complex life stories into a tapestry of caring, that arises out a deep need to be loved.  There is a young man whose favorite Christmas was when he was 14 and got to spend the night at a hospital.  There is a woman whose mom is in the later stages of Alzheimer disease.  There is a couple and the man is a cop who is jealous of his wife’s beauty.  There is an elderly man whose wife was killed long ago and claims that she has reincarnated in other people.  There is an ex-priest who after twenty years in the clergy has lost his faith.  You will have to watch the movie sometime, to see how it turns out.

As I was watching it, my mind went to the words of a wonderful song by the singing group America, that goes like this: This is for all the lonely people
Thinking that life has passed them by
Don’t give up
Until you drink from the silver cup
And ride that highway in the sky

This is for all the single people
Thinking that love has left them dry
Don’t give up
Until you drink from the silver cup
You never know until you try

Well, I’m on my way
Yes, I’m back to stay
Well, I’m on my way back home

This is for all the lonely people
Thinking that life has passed them by
Don’t give up
Until you drink from the silver cup
She’ll never take you down or
Never give you up
You’ll never know until you try

All of us can feel lonely and sometimes it can overwhelm us.  The song encourages us to never give up until we drink from the silver cup. The silver cup is the chalice that predates the cup of Christ, the silver highway is the silver astral cord leading from this life to that which comes next.  She “will never take you down or never give you up”, is a reference of how the Wiccans refer to the Goddess.

If you are feeling lonely this holiday season, please know that there are others who care deeply about you.  LIfe has so much to offer each of us if we try.  Let us be aware of one another and hold each other close, so we know we are loved and not alone.  From my never quitting heart to yours, Thomas


Heart to Heart 525 Thanks


I remember graduating from the sixth grade at Hyde Park Elementary School in Cincinnati Ohio.  The graduating class learned the iconic Bob Hope song “Thanks for the Memory.”  We substituted different lyrics to celebrate the school faculty and how they had served us.  I remember crying a lot.  It was the first time that I was aware of bittersweet tears.  I was happy to be going to junior high school and was sad at leaving new found friends.

This was the school that I had my first metaphysical experience.  A year prior, I was living in Hollywood California attending the only school I ever knew. I was a straight-A student and had earned favors from the school that had given me a healthy sense of self-worth.  Then my mother announced we were moving back to Ohio.  I was born there and we came to Hollywood when I was 1.  I felt like my heart was being ripped from my chest.  No, I shouted, how can you do this to me?

In the ensuing weeks, I had a dream.  I dreamt that I was in a new school with the students and the homeroom teacher.  Fast forward to September 1951, the first day of school in Cincinnati.  My grandpa drove us to the school and I was full of fear.  We turned the corner and suddenly I saw the school building of my dreams. I began to relax a little.  Gramps, let us out and as we walked to the front door,  I was familiar with the entire place.  We entered and went to homeroom.  When we went into the room, my cousin was about to tell me the teacher’s name.  I interrupted him and said her name before he did.  His eyes got huge!  How did you…….? I then told him the names of several of our classmates.

Perhaps some of the aforementioned tears were full of the connection that my heart knew it had experienced.  All I know is, that I was thankful for that moment in time and I really felt it at a deep level.

On this day, when those of us in the United States celebrate being thankful, may you remember a time in your life when your soul and your angels and your heart teamed up to give you peace!  From my thankful heart to yours, Thomas

Heart to Heart 524 Gratitude


Most of us who read this post are so blessed.  We live in relative freedom.  We are able to make choices about our life.  We have family and friends whom we love and who love us.  If we have good health, we are very blessed.  If we are doing what we love to do, we are so fortunate.  We have a warm house, comfortable beds.  We get to watch or participate in entertainment.  We make enough money to enjoy life.

What more could we ask?  Perhaps peace on Earth.  Perhaps no more wars.  Perhaps a healthy climate for ourselves and our children and their children. Perhaps everyone on Earth having enough shelter, food, and warmth of heart and hearth. We are in the minority of the people of the world.  While we take these moments to give thanks for all we have, it is also a time to recommit to all of the beings of the planet to live in safety and prosperity.

Let us be grateful for the opportunity to make a difference in the lives of others.  Let us find the ways to have everyone not only have enough but to thrive!  I encourage us all to get involved in the simplest ways to spread the gift of love on our fragile spaceship.  From my grateful heart to yours, Thomas

Heart to Heart 523 Soul Love

Soul Love

Sounds like a 1960’s TV show!  We are love.  We came from love, we return to love, we will always be love.  Our limited ego doesn’t know this.  It often lives in fear.  It has been brainwashed, indoctrinated, otherwise completely filled with limitation and ignorance.  We get to learn to allow the ego to surrender its hold on illusion.  We are eternal. limitless, beings of light and love.  Our souls know this.  The soul is patient. It will literally wait forever for us to get a clue.

One way to create a soul reunion is to learn to be silent.  When we spend moments in a peaceful state and suspend our mind chatter, it is easier to reconnect with that eternal part of us.  When we learn Yoga or meditation or some other form of mindfulness, we return home.

As we move through these busy days of work and play and holiday celebrations, let us remember who we are.  We are One.  From my soul to yours, Thomas